I have over 30 years’ experience of working in organisations, many of those as a manager and, of course, all as a colleague to others. Just over 10 years ago I trained as a coach and have been coaching individuals and groups since then.
Because life happens, there have been many instances when people I have worked with have had to cope with losses of partners, family members or close friends. Every one has responded differently to their situation and no two situations have been the same.
I have also had personal experience of bereavements that have been unexpected including losing a brother aged 24 and my parents in a road collision. I was lucky in the sensitive and generous support I received from my employers and that was massively important to me. Talking about the impact of loss and grief helps us to process what has happened and to better understand our emotional responses.
I have over 20 years’ experience of working in public sector organisations both in L&D and in HR, and more recently with start-ups and SMEs beginning their businesses.
About 8 years ago I started my journey with NLP, becoming a practitioner and then a Master NLP practitioner. It has become an invaluable addition to the coaching work that has long been part of my day to day HR and managerial approach, and has often been the difference that makes a difference.
Working in HR in a large business means that you are often part of the significant life events of the people you work with and for. Inevitably this includes people dealing with the death of family, partners, children, friends.
Following the sudden death of my husband in 2011, I learned how important that support at work is, how necessary it is to have something in your life that hasn’t changed, and how difficult working with other people’s expectations of you can be.
I believe passionately that we don’t talk about death, bereavement and grief enough and that this means we can be hugely fearful of dealing with it, and the people who are experiencing it.
I think that we can have better tools for helping and supporting each other if we are willing to have those conversations. That having that language can and will make a real difference.